TWINS FLAME

TWINS FLAME

Twin souls over-romanticized BS or true love?

I have been thinking about writing an article about twin flames (twin souls) for some time. But every time I felt it wasn’t the right time. This morning after a twin flame between vegetable(EGG PLANT)  showed me a real peek behind the facade he had pulled up for the outside world,

I have known about twin souls since I was grown up with age. I grew up in a spiritual community in berhampur  and I can still see myself sitting there reading about twin flames. I was struck by the concept and desperately wanted to believe in the idea of being destined for just one… As time went by and I grew up, like many I distanced myself from the spiritual beliefs of my parents to find my own and twin souls became nothing more than over-romanticized bullshit to me.

There is always an obstacle

One of the tell tale signs of a twin flame connection is an immense inexplicable pull towards each other combined with a sure fire obstacle that keeps you apart. I’m always amazed at people who deliberately want to find their twin soul and ask the Universe to bring their twin flame into their life, they have no fucking clue what they are asking for because twin flame love is nowhere near what we consider to be love in our society. I also secretly smile when people come to me gushing over, with ‘love’ cause they found their twin soul and life is so perfect.  I always tell them if this is really your twin flame, you better buckle up cause you are just about to hit the roller coasters like you have never been on any in your whole life. Meeting your twin soul ALWAYS starts a cleansing and purging process, bringing up your own shit that still needs to be healed.

There is often something keeping twins apart, until the time is right. Large age differences, cultural differences, long distances, he’s married, she’s married, they are both married.  Usually whatever the obstacle is, it brings a lot of shame and is a big hit to the ego to overcome it. It is set up this way, because twin flame relationships are designed as an express way to enlightenment. The struggle and the pain caused by the obstacle in combination with the extreme pull both twins feel towards each other and their undying love for each other can literally pull them out of their ego and back into Oneness with all that is.

I put the word love in quotations earlier, because until you have met your twin soul you have no clue what love is. Not in the real sense of love. That is what the twin flame process comes to achieve in your life, it will help you birth real love, unconditional love for the other, for yourself and for the world. This might sound arrogant, but trust me once you meet your twin soul you will realize you never knew what true love felt like, until now.

You can’t break the connection, no matter what you try

The twin flame stage is set up in such a way that you can’t leave, no matter what you try. No matter how good you are in walking away from  relationships, you won’t be able to break away from this one.  Even if you are the runner or try to run, the Universe is in-exhaustive in her creativity to push you back to each other.

By keeping you locked into the bond with each other a healing process is started that will pull you through every pain or fear you would otherwise never even consider facing, until you are cleansed to the core. Your love for each other that started as something that you will later look back on and hardly recognize as love, will only grow deeper as the immense pull keeps pulling you toward each other with a force that you have never felt before in your life. This is scary as hell for both of you, but usually it is the guy that runs.Even women tend to run and try and hide in overeating, games with other men or other attempts to sooth the extreme pain. It doesn’t work anymore though.

Twin flame or just a toxic asshole?

example when you stop fighting the connection, when you stop trying to run and hide, you will start healing smaller and bigger trauma’s  When you’ve got yourself a toxic asshole, you will feel it because life will only get worse and she will make you feel worse about yourself. In a twin flame relationship you will never feel worse about yourself. Rather through seeing yourself through the eyes of your twin, you will only learn to love yourself more.

Signs from the Universe

So if you are also the one who was left behind in your twin flame relationship I hope this article helps you see the blessings your twin has brought you. That you like me decide to trust the signs the Universe* gives you, even when they seem wacko in this moment. That you realize that what your runner twin is showing you, is not how she really feels about you. 

In the end you might end up together with your twin and have romance too, but that is the cherry on top…

The scribbled story

I know sorry isn't going to sound enough for what i have done. but i hope you try to understanding my point of view.if you are reading the blog,it means i have left your place and it also means we are not going to see each other, again. i am sorry for what you are going through right now.

Efforts are only made when you truly know that you want to be with that person.and thats why iam not going to put efforts in you.this will be unfair to you,and i know you are everything i look for in a girl and we have chemistry.there is intensity,too,something that i crave for all the time.but i call you  my almost-you are quite there but still i don't find you enough.

You don't seem to mind it, and you know that i don't need to be fixed or saved.you are accepting me as the person i am.but here is what i think i do need-someone stronger than my emptiness.when it comes to love,i know i am cautious and smarter than the rest.partly because i understand love-to make it through i have to struggle hard.and mostly because i have felt love at many occasions.

you had said earlier tonight, nothing lasts you think that this person or this feeling might,so you hold on,you are just too lonely.growing old alone is okay. growing together is okay.its okay there were no cracks in your voice,and neither you felt sorry for the person i am.you just said things like one tells a fact-casually and blatantly.things can always slip off your grasp.just enjoy the moment you add before going for the shower.

My almost, a person like me needs to keep trying. i have heard bad things little lies,and everything that made me distant to people and to myself. iam not blaming them how they made me feel. i take full responsibility for the person iam today and iam trying to change. but the saddest thing i head tonight was when you said iam everything to you,and you mean very little to me. its not true. but i do hope i change before i meet another almost 

!!YoU ArE The PaiN YoU ArE ThE CurE !!

!!YoU ArE The PaiN YoU ArE ThE CurE !!!!YoU ArE The PaiN YoU ArE ThE CurE !!

Dear Shitu,

                  

I know we fight.I know we argue over stupid things and those just happen to be what we contemplate before we go to sleep.we stress because we wonder if the other is going to be give up and quit fighting.promises are broken and trust is questioned.so much bullsh***t that we put up with.but in the end,we know that it will pay off.in the end,we will come out on the top and things  will become better.I keep my faith because I love you.and regardless of the drama,in the end yes,you are worth it...love you i am so sorry for all my mistakes I know Iam the difficult one and this time I have been really crazy. Iam sorry for all the trouble I caused.

                                                                                                                          LOVE

Regards Babu

MAN WILL BE MAN

MAN WILL BE MAN

I am talking about most of the Guys not about every guy !

In Every breakup, mostly the Guys are blamed, like :- " boy was not loyal or he did not have guts to speak for marriage with his parents etc etc ...

Loyalty doesn't come by one's gender , both Man or woman can be loyal or not. So both, gender faces d same issue. 

Now on the point of stand , Guys really don't take stands when it comes to marriage, Agreed. But I also believe , most of the guys are not scared but they are cautious, they think too much for their parents & their health , sister & her marriage/ her future, familyname , society , etc etc 

I don't blame them or don't hold anything against them , you know why ? Coz they have learned to sacrifice their happiness for family & for loved ones and this was taught by their Dad.

 A father works day & night for the family but we see only the work done by our mother at home ....

He might have wanted to quit his boring job and would have wanted to do something which he loved but he couldn't coz bread and butter of the family would be at stake and he did not want to risk it , but we only see that mothers  have sacrificed their personal ambitions....

Dads go to work even in bad health so that his salary doesn't get affected....

When a child ask for something even if it's something they can't afford parents first ask, is it necessary? If yes ok give me some time will get it ...

They never buy clothes for themselves , first they ensure that the money is used for their child's needs .

Yes we are the Boys/Men , who have learnt to smile even if we are unhappy and even after knowing that it's a huge risk still we dump our relationship and go for arrange marriages ! 

In tough times we take the blame on ourselves and keep going.

We don't cry in front of our loved ones , and let them think we don't have emotions and tell them to be strong .

Yes we have learnt patience, sacrifice and the real meaning of love from our Father i.e " at any cost ensure that your family is happy & protected , and do anything to secure the family's name and future" !

The Journey will never end

THE JOURNEY WILL NEVER END

It was year 2016. I was a reckless brat in that period who has no purpose in life but to enjoy it fully. It was first time I got the train tickets on VIP quota. its unexpectedly expected   .

Its the summer season. very difficult to get the tickets on train . specifically the routes from Bhubaneswar to mumbai   are too busy. because on this season everybody rush to drive to enjoy summer vacation.  I was lucky with help of my relative uncle .I got the train tickets  .

I started my journey  from bhubaneswar to pune by train, sitting in three tier AC coach, there was a beautiful girl sitting on opposite seat. there were 3-4 more people sitting around us and discussing usual stuff  like people used to do in trains. During this conversation another girl has been joined with them they are two oriya girl and one panjabi girl was there.  i realized they were travelling alone. It was not like i was eying on them  and making them  uncomfortable...its just i knew their  presence around me and could feel it. After few hour we  slowly  slowely  started grasping .then after we are became more closure and closure . we shared our foods what ever brought it from home. after few hour the train stopped at  berhampur station. 

Again the train left from berhampur station . we  were sharing our college  stories. with in them the panjabi girl made me more closure to her. like we are very old man. as for that i prepared myself and  finally I couldn't hold any further decided to sit with her.  Turns out that she was also a would be studied law from kiit university ,bhubaneswar .  I was flabbergasted by her pristine beauty and was trying to refrain from saying anything stupid to make an ass of myself. 

Iam not sure whether she sensed it or if it was natural that she shared some stories. of her ragging and few other embarrassing ones. I was Surprised by the way she presented herself. As if she loves every moment of what she does no matter how good,bad or ugly it may be. 

Most of the girls don't show their true self in first meeting. they are try to be sophisticated, mature etc & there she was carefree & ready for anything and everything. Me being conscious was a rare occurrence back then and she made. But,the amazing part was how easily she brought me back to my normal self

We were having a real good time and healthy fun conversion, other ladies around us were also enjoying our stories there by us occasional smiles. 

As there is a halt of around 20 minutes at Secunderabad  junction, I rushed outside station to get hyderabadi biryani. she  was also hold my hand. and we started running towards the shop. after too much of struggling we got the biriyani. and we also played the act on the movie like jab we mate . she take the act of kareena and i was taken the act of sahid. we have started the running behind the train. it was the great moment for me. I never ever enjoyed in a life.

As the train left hyderabad junction, the lunch was out on table of course not mine. They both gladly offered me their food and the desserts after that (thanks to Indian mothers) and our conversation resumed. after some hour the train reached at solapur station. and we have taken selfie together outside the station.

As the time passed, we did a lot of stupid things like playing Antakshari,and also we played playing card . it sounded awful. Giving each other dares like stealing someone's shoes (yes, we did keep it back), waking up someone and asking for lighter etc etc. She told me that she do not have a boyfriend at present & I took it as +1. in between we have exchanged our personal number.  after few hour the train finally reached at pune station.  really it was awsome experince in a train.

.how she didn't realized this before. and we started dating that day onwards.

All this was started in train months back.
I still feel amazed just thinking about it.

I am sorry guys i shortened it up...it can run into hundreds of pages which i will do one day.



                                                                                                             @Shibashis

Let This Be My Warning, still i love you from bottom of my heart

Hey, you.

                 If you’re seeing this it means my replies are now quicker than usual. We’ve come to a point where I tell you stories like my dreams and my unnatural jokes. 

Be warned, I think I’m falling in love with you.This is not a compliment. This is a warning.If I fall in love with you which I know I am. I might not stop myself in my cravings to know the details of your life and I voluntarily share mine. I will lose control in everything that’s going on and permit my guts to tell me what to do.This is revolting for me.But we have reached an impasse and there is nothing I can do. Remember the time I value my personal space? Well now, I want you to be always there with me. Beside me.You see the problem?

The comfortable walls I build for longer time but it  is rapidly crashing. I’ve implanted malicious thoughts in my mind that you will not be worth it and you have to remind me time and time again that, you are.I was perfectly fine with the hook-up culture, in fact before I met you I genuinely believe it was tailor fit for me. It was so easy to kid myself that love doesn’t exist.

Now, all I can think of is you and not your ego.you know, there is no turning back.you may be attracted to the confident devil may care for me.but it realty. this is me iam an insecure girl who over-analyzes things and worries about every possible scenario in life.you may not like this side of me. i will find ways to self confident this because I’m scared. Scared, I may love you more than you love me.Scared, that I’m thinking of another person other than myself. Scared, that I couldn’t have the luxury of killing myself anytime I wanted to because now, you’re here.Scared, that I couldn’t fall asleep because every time I close my eyes all I can see is your face and every time I lay in bed all I can think of is your body next to mine and every time I look at myself all I can envision is us.

I’m scared. Nobody actually stuck around this long to see the real me. I will end this. I will find ways to end us.And I may not be worth it.But please stay. my sweet heart trust me. i will keep happy for end of life. 

Regards

Your Love

ରିଂକୀ ତୁ ହାଉଚୁ ମୋର ସ୍ବପ୍ନ.କେବେ କେବେ ମୋତେ ଖୋଜିବା କସ୍ତ ହୁଏତ.ତୁ ମୋ ପୈଂ କେତେ ଦରକାରୀ .ମୁ ଏସବୁ ଜଣେଇବା ଚାହେନା.କିନ୍ତୁ ତୁ ଦିନେ ନ ଦିନେ ନିସ୍ଚୟ ବୁଝିବୁ .ମୁ ଏସବୁ କଂହିକୀ କରେ.

" HOW TO KEEP HAPPY TO YOUR GIRL FRIEND"

Keeping your girlfriend happy is the key to a successful relationship. Read on and find out how to keep your girlfriend happy.

Babu and Shitu are in a relationship since six and a half years. Lately they have been fighting like cats. Shitu throws a tantrum if Babu shows up late for a date. Babu feels jealous when she talks about other guys. If things remain like they are the relationship is surely going to hit the rocks. As time passes and the honeymoon period gets over, couples stop behaving like they did when they first began the relationship. Though it may seem difficult to understand a girl's emotions you can try some tricks to keep her happy. Here are few things a guy can do to keep his girlfriend happy.

Be loyal to her 

This is the most basic and important rule. You would not mind occasional flirting but it could lead to bigger issues. Do not two time her, come what may! The relationship prospers if you are honest. Do not try to cheat on your partner. Discuss issues and communicate if you feel there is a problem. No one is perfect and there will be always something more that you will desire. Being loyal is not about not getting attracted but it is remembering that you have a partner who loves you, every time you feel attracted.

Say sorry 

Do not be reluctant to say sorry if you have made a mistake or have hurt her in some way. 'Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious one,' whoever said this said it rightly. Never say, 'I am sorry that I hurt you'. This shows arrogance. Instead, say that you are sorry and you should not have done so.

Say that you love her 

These three magical words do wonders. 'I love you' is what you have to tell her from time to time to make your relationship strong. Gently hold her hand, look deep into her eyes and tell her how much you love her and how much you care about her

Call her back 

You do not have to climb on roof tops and shout your lungs out to her. If you love her, express it. Do not forget to call her back when you said to do so. At least call up once a day to ask what is she doing? Did she have her food on time? Just make a call to say 'I miss you' or 'I love you'. It shows you care and all it takes is a five minute call.

Give missed calls 

Whenever you get time, buzz her to tell her that you are missing her. Your missed calls will make her feel special. They will also create a mysterious effect and you will have something to talk about when you actually call up or meet. Activate a romantic caller tune on your mobile phone. If she returns your missed calls, she will first hear the romantic number that will captivate her heart.

Send her sweet text messages 

Make the best use of technology when you are running short on time. If you cannot call her then text her. Shower her with cute messages just to tell her that she is on your mind. Text her and let her know that you are missing her a lot (do not fake it). In your text messages mention sweet names for her like sweetheart, honey or cutie pie.

Share things with her 

Let her know about your life. Do not create a big gap. Tell her about your past, if it is important, before she gets to know from some other source. Introduce her to your friends, tell her about what happened at work or tell her what your mother is cooking on this weekend. Ask her opinion on which shirt you should wear for work. It will make her feel that you value her.

Spend time with her 

No relationship will work unless you give it time. Remember your first dateand try to make your every other date as exciting as the first time you met. Your girlfriend will appreciate that you made time for her. Do things that will make the time you spent together memorable. A candle light dinner and a romantic love song with some champagne can make her fantasies real. There is nothing more romantic than taking a walk on a rainy day without any umbrellas. Sip some coffee together after that and you see her glow with the warmth of your love. Do the unexpected at times. It can turn a simple date into an eventful one.

Give her some space 

Do not keep nagging. Give her some breathing space. Do not act over possessive. Let her spend time with her friends. Do not feel envious when she is enjoying with her pals. Let her know that you trust her. Avoid clinging to her like magnet all the time. A little space is important to let her miss you.

Respect her decisions 

Remember something you learnt at school? Give respect and you will get respect. Respect her decisions and encourage her to achieve her goals. Call her and wish her good luck if she is going on a job interview. Stand by her side if she is depressed regarding her career or family. Tell her not to worry and be there for her. It is okay if you cannot give great advice but just by making her feel that you are there for her can make her feel better.

Public display of affection 

Show your affection for her publicly. Do not feel hesitant. Hold her hand when you are walking. Put your hand around her shoulder and make her feel that you really care for her. Avoid kissing in public or you will find raised eyebrows around you. In worse cases, you might attract some rude remarks.

Complement her 

You have approached her as you liked everything about her. Complement her when you notice something nice about her. Adore her beautiful smile. Admire her new attire or haircut. Tell her that you love the perfume she wears. Do not criticise her habits and do not try to change her. If there is really a problem, discuss it with her and find a solution together.

Drop love notes and letters 

Go with the saying 'old is gold'. Adopt the old way of writing a letter. Write a letter, sprinkle the perfume you wear on it and mail it on the address of your sweetheart. She will be more than glad to receive a love letter from you. Without her knowledge leave a love note wherever she can find it easily and surprise her.

Surprise her with gifts 

Shower her with gifts frequently. You need not buy very expensive gifs. Out of the blue treat her with her favourite flavour of ice-cream. Give her a bunch of roses, call her and tell that you have booked movie tickets for one of the latest movies she wanted to watch. A cuddle toy melts the hardest hearts; send it to her with a love note attached to it.

Be yourself 

Do not pretend to be humorous, if you are not. Be your self. She will love you the way you are and not for some other reason. She will easily see through you. You may not be good at cracking jokes but you may be a romantic at heart. Be an original and you will be loved.

Make her laugh 

You need not to be a laughter champion to make her laugh. A few spontaneous jokes can make her giggle. Tell her about funny incident that happened to you when you were a small boy or tell her about some funny thing you read somewhere. You do not have to try any tricks for this, just share some funny episodes.

Pamper her 

Who does not like getting pampered? Sometimes treat her like a small girl. Buy chocolates and pastries for her. Pick up the heart shaped balloon for her. Tell her a story. Write poems for her. Think of your favourite love song and sing it for her. If you cannot sing then give her a CD of songs you would like to sing to her. You can also dedicate a song for her on a radio channel which plays songs on your demand. However, do not forget to ask her to tune in at the right time.

Hugs & kisses 

Warm hugs and passionate kisses blossom a relationship. A loving touch can work like magic. Greet her with a warm affectionate hug when you meet her. Not only hugs and kisses but a loving touch like holding her hand and caressing her is necessary to show your love towards her. When you are sitting with a group of friends, hold her hand below the table and see her trying to hide her blush. 

If you have been going through a rough patch with your girl friend or just fallen in love, you now have the secret to make your girl friend happy. A relationship needs to be nurtured and it is the small things that make a big difference. It is time now to give her wonderful reasons to fall in love with you all over again. 

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